Hi everyone, I’m really struggling with something and hoping to get some honest advice or perspective. My father is in a nursing home, and over the last few weeks I’ve noticed some concerning things—bruises that no one can explain properly, personal items going missing, and his overall demeanor has changed. He used to be upbeat, but now he barely talks. I’ve raised it with staff but keep getting vague answers. I’m not sure if this is something I should be taking legal action over or if I’m overreacting. Has anyone else dealt with this kind of situation?
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Hey , first of all, I’m really sorry you and your dad are going through this. You’re definitely not overreacting. I went through a very similar situation with my aunt last year. She had unexplained bruises and became withdrawn, and we later found out she wasn’t being repositioned properly and had developed bedsores. It was hard to get the facility to admit anything, so we contacted a lawyer, and honestly, that made a big difference. A good attorney knows how to get medical records and staff logs that families don’t have easy access to. If you feel like the facility is stonewalling or being dismissive, don’t wait. Legal help isn’t about jumping to sue—it’s about protecting your loved one. I’d recommend checking out personal injury lawyer—they helped us understand what options we had and what signs to watch for. Even if you’re not ready to make a move, just talking to someone can help clarify what’s really going on. Hang in there—it’s not an easy road, but you’re doing the right thing by asking questions.